I’m currently sitting on the balcony of a beautiful cottage high in the mountains, sipping on tea and loving life. Loving life, loving myself and feeling good is where I’m focusing my energy to end the year on a high note (this whole year has been incredible, but still, I like to go out with a bang…).

Which brings me to self love!

Self love is a movement I not only practise but one I wholeheartedly endorse — I regularly gift Radical Self Love to friends to remind them to be even more fucking fabulous than they already are.

I think it’s so easy to get caught up on negative space — what we’re not, what we don’t have, things that are lacking in our lives. I love the idea of standing in the full beauty of who we are, bathing in gratitude and throwing some dollar bills at ourselves for being badass honeys! Mmm, yes!

And the thing is, when we really love and respect ourself, we take care of our temple — our body, thoughts and emotions — the things that enable our spirit to shine. So think of self care as a, sort of, “happiness maintenance.”

In the same way we repair a leaky faucet, its important to stop any bad vibes from dripping all over our dreaminess.

And we do this by focusing on all the things that make us feel good and then doing even more of that good shit — getting a glittery manicure, drinking our pretty pink vitamin water, dance parties with our bestie, saying no to something dull or someone too demanding, etc.

But there’s one thing you should know: true self love is not reckless. Meaning that, it will not come back later to bite you in the bum.

So, maxing out your credit card in the name of loving yourself and treating yourself to all the wonderful, magical things you deserve? That’s actually the opposite — self-sabotage, babe. And it ain’t cute.

It’s concrete feet for the soul; keeps you down.

Self sabotage says, “You need this thing right now to feel good, because you’re broken.” Whereas, self love says, “Have this cherry on top because you’re already one delicious Sundae!”

It’s important to recognise the difference. Because loving yourself doesn’t need to cost a thing. In fact, it shouldn’t.

Love is a free for all.